Day game will teach you many things that you can use in all aspects of your life. One of which is being able to push past comfort zones.
Fortunately this Isn't only going to relate to day game but your whole life in general. Comfort zones can be both great and horrible. You can feel comfortable with a person to be able to connect and relate to them or you can also live your life in fear because you are too afraid to leave your comfort zone.
Not being able to step outside of your comfort zone can be what defines a persons life. If you think about it almost everything you have had to do in your life you probably weren't 100% comfortable doing. When you were a young teenager going for your drivers license were you comfortable taking the test or were you nervous, when you went after that job you really wanted did you ever second guess yourself? Or how about that girl sitting over in the corner of the coffee shop practically begging for you to go talk to her.
Without stepping outside your comfort zone you simply don't experience life. A quote I heard said " you have to become comfortable at being uncomfortable". Meaning that you have to be ok with the thought and idea that being uncomfortable is ok.
Do you want to pursue a new career but you are scared of the possible negative outcome? Do you want to move up stakes in poker because you feel you are ready but you are afraid to lose money? Are you staying in a relationship you don't care for because it will be too hard to find a new one?
The only way to grow, push forward, and experience better things is to take action and push past your comfort zones. If not you simply missed out on what could have been, but you won't ever know because you didn't step outside your comfort zone.
Here is a story that happened to me last weekend when I was daygaming.
It was Saturday and I was feeling good. The day before I had a good day of daygaming that included hanging out with a girl for an hour That I had approached before she went to work. In that time I tried to kiss her 3 times. After she went to work I landed another approach that went really well and set up a date for the upcoming weekend. To put it short, I was feeling good.
Today I was hitting the mall right next to my place, There's a reason I'm staying where I am staying ;) After rocking up to the mall and spending a little time inside I found that it wasn't very busy in terms of hot girls running about. Well this is Alaska after all, not many hot girls in general. There was a couple approaches that didn't lead anywhere as well as an amusing one that went " I just wanted to tell you that you look attractive for an older woman" "I'm 30....." ...... anyways.... After those approaches I felt like it was just going to be one of those days. A day that you want to put in the effort but there just isn't anything to put the effort into.
Then I saw her.
A small young girl walking out of a bra/panty store wearing tight fitting grey leggings that shaped very well to the contour of her small tight ass. The primal instinct kicked in and I ran after her. I stopped her and began to gaze into her eyes as I began to create a conversation with her. She had shy personality, yet she wasn't afraid. I found out she was only here for the day, living a few hours away she came into the city for shopping. Finding out she was Russian was a big surprise as she didn't have an accent but looking down at her breasts I found a reason to believe her. Such a sweet nice girl with a body that would make you drool.
She insisted that she needed to find jeans and asked if I could help walk her to the store, good sign. We began walking. I brought her to the store and told her that I wanted some frozen yogurt and she was coming with me. She agreed and we went on our way. She was following my lead as younger girls love to do and it was going smoothly. After getting our frozen yogurt, we sat down and began to have a proper instant date chat. learning a little bit more about each other, nothing too special. We finished up and I began to walk her to the store again. In front of the store I told her I wasn't going to shop with her as girls take too long to shop. I said we would probably never see each other again and she agreed. I asked her if she likes Italian sodas as I know a really good place close by. She hadn't had one so I told her we are going to go get one and she followed my lead again.
The Italian soda place I just outside the mall about a block away, conveniently about 1 block away from my place as well. From here I think you know where my thoughts were at. After we were handed our sodas she followed me as we began to walk in the direction of where my place just so happened to be conveniently located. We arrived at the corner, just about 50 feet away was my place, all that I need to do now is suggest coming up for some music and funny videos on the computer, lead the interaction and enjoy the fruits of my labor.
That's when captain destruction on the mighty destructor stepped in. RING RING!!! her phone began to go off. She answers it and tells the peron on the phone she is in one of the stores in the mall. She gets off the phone and says, "sorry I have to go" .... so.... damn.... close....
Before she leaves I take her number as we hug and part ways. Even without the happy ending to the story, I was loving how things turned out. I enjoyed the process of being able to lead the interaction but sometimes you just can't fade the case ace on the river.
I began texting her and we've texted a few times since then. She is going to try and come back up to see me before I leave. she seems to show a lot of interest but girls are girls so I won't be holding my breath by any means. Next is the date set up for this weeknd with the girl from the day before. We'll see if she comes through.
Well it's that time of the season for me again, where I have about 5 weeks left and I can't wait for things to be done. Of course the end of the season isn't ever a happy time for me until the final day because usually it is filled with everyone having attitudes, lack of sleep, and horrible weather. It actually snowed today uuuughhh.
On the bright side this last week went really well In a lot of aspect of life. for last weekend to this weekend that just past I had a lot of good times daygaming including getting about 6 or 7 numbers of which a few have seemed to hook decently and I have a date planned for tomorrow so we'll see how it turns out.
I also finally had a day off Which was good, just hung out with some friends nothing exciting but it seems the more time I get a chance not to work the more I look forward to not working. Daytrading has been going extremely difficult. there is times where I think to myself yeah I understand this no problem then there are times where I'm like mmmmmm no fucking clue. which has pretty much been this last couple weeks. I really really want to be a profitable day trader as it really fits my personality so I hope over the next couple years I finally understand how to be profitable. Until then I'll just keep smashing my head against the wall, one day I'll break through it :P
There really isn't a whole lot to post about which is kind of lame. I like being able to fill my blog with fun exciting news but work sucks all the fun times out of the summer :( but this winter should be filled with a lot of excitement and is only a short while away and then after that, just one more season of work and I will be on my own for a while (hopefully for good). Oh I'm getting my wisdom teeth removed, I guess that's exciting....
I touched on this briefly in the last post but I've been wanting to write this post for the last couple of weeks but I have just been too busy to.
After learning daygame and getting good at it you come across a reality kick. You realize that after everything you've been told about how finding "the one" will just happen and how things just work out how they work out is very different from what you come across in game/seduction.
Once you learn these skills you end up becoming the chooser and not the chosen. You have a never ending choice of which girls you decide to get involved with. Even with these dating skills some guys will still choose to get into relationships and sometimes even still get married. every one is different so whatever they want is up to them. The thing that matters the most is that they chose to do is, it didn't just happen that way.
After realizing you actually can control your dating life you start to realize that other things in your life can be controlled as well. Why are you living where you live, why are you working where you work, why do you do the things that you do. once you are consumed by the thought of "the red pill" you start to question why it is you do the things in your life. That is precisely where I am at for the moment.
Although I have found out over the years that my plans can change very quickly, I have still made plans for my future Post red pill. It has been a few years that I have been telling people close to me that I'm not to interested in my job and I'd rather be doing things for myself. with the whole "red pill" kick I've decided to quit my job after next season and venture into a more entrepreneur style of "work". I will be going from making 50k-60k net to probably barley making 30k net and the thought of it makes me happy because I will be doing what I want to do and how I want to do it.
I really don't care for America to be honest, I'm just tired of it at the moment and I find Europe so much more enticing. When I quit my job I plan on moving to Europe. I can only stay in certain places for up to 3 months so I will be moving every 3 months which is something I would absolutely love since I love traveling.
All of this will happen In about a years time. I know there is a lot of information out there stating that the best time to take action is now. I understand this but In 1 years time I will be in a really really good spot to take this leap and come out successful compared to if I were to start now.
In that time I plan on working on a bunch of entrepreneurial ideas that I have that involve free lance writing, working on my own website, start teaching guys daygame, and daytrading. Once I am in Europe I will also be able to play online poker again which I do believe I would enjoy again, I can teach english in certain countries as well as work under the table for construction companies or different options. So the income I'm not really worried about and I'm actually excited to start trying to venture out for myself although I am a little nervous but in an excited way.
A big addition between now and before I move to Europe is that I am planing on dating the girl I've been seeing from LA. I am going to take a break from approaching for a little while and focus on her. we have a lot in common and we plan on doing a bit of traveling. The only reason why I decided to get serious with her is because I believe I can benefit from her being in my life and we can have some really positive and fun times. I know you guys are probably saying oooo she's going to change you but I am very set in my ways and it would take A LOT for her to change my mind about moving to europe.
So this whole post is basically me pushing towards what really makes me happy, what I want to do because it is what I want to do and not what others expect of me. That is how I want to live my life and that is what the red pill makes you realize.
In the last post I talked about the idea of the real life "red pill" and how life isn't really what it is thought to be. In this post I wanted to talk about how I am living life now that I am looking through it with a new thought process.
Daygame/seduction is what did it for me. when I was 16-22 I had two serious relationships and looking back on it they both kind of just happened and more than not the two girls pursued me. After the last break up I had pretty negative thoughts towards dating and I moved to Vegas for the winter to have some fun, play poker for the winter, gain some life experience, and just get out. It was when I was about to leave vegas at the end of my stay that I "found" game. I was going out to the clubs about every other weeknd. nothing super crazy just going out getting drunk having fun, dancing, and trying to talk to girls... trying.
That's where it started. When I was going to the clubs without knowing any kind of game or seduction techniques I was still trying to approach. Unfortunately I was shit at conversations. I am generally a quite guy, and even over the years of pushing my boundaries and maturing my life and expanding, I am still a pretty quite guy. just who I am. Nothing wrong with that it's just it's not very helpful when it comes to conversations. So while I was clubbing in vegas and trying to approach the interactions would usually go the same. hey how are you, where you from, how's your night going, what are you drinking...etc. Like I was expecting them to fall in my lap just because I came over to talk to them. oooooh being young and unexperienced.
Well at the end of my stay in vegas I was getting pretty frustrated when talking to girls and not being able to build a conversation with them. I eventually youtubed "how to talk to girls" and came across some videos I liked. They were of a dating coach in austraila who primarily talked to girls during the day. I started watching more of his videos and by time I went back up to Alaska I wanted to try and start approaching girls during the day. I eventually found the "pick up community" online. (basically a bunch of websites, forums, articles, and so on of dating, pickup, game, and seduction). After finding the community online and approaching I began to take it more serious and put a lot of effort in trying to improve my dating life.
Learning game/seduction is great and I actually really suggest every male to try and do so. It isn't because you are able to have sex with the girls that you want but for me it is more so that your whole life changes for the better. you learn in game that you have to be an "attractive man", but that doesn't mean looks. you are attractive by the things you do in your life. hobbies, interests, style/fashion, grooming, physique, attitude, confidence, and so much more. so game really changes you to become a genuine real man and a man that you should be. That is why I like game and suggest other to try to learn it.
After getting decent consistent results in game my mind state shifted. I was able to meet the girls I wanted in my life and be able to put what ever kind of effort I wanted into them and if I didn't like them then I would move on to the next one. That is pretty much the start of my red pill exposure.
Abundance
Being able to have the girls in your life and being able to be the chooser instead of the chosen is a great ability and experience. No longer will you have to "wait for the one" to come along. you go out and find her. Now being the chooser my mind began to shift. Why do people get married. most guys don't know game and have abundance so they live in scarcity and they end up settling with whatever comes along. If they had abundance would they get married? possibly, but this time it would be with a girl of their dreams and not some girl that fell into their lap. My thoughts on marriage aren't productive so I don't want to get married anyway but that's besides the point the point is that my mind started to shift from the thoughts of settling, and living in comfort and instead was being replaced with Abundance, pushing the boundaries, not settling, and trying to really see how far I can take life.
That's where I was exposed to the red pill. Now I was looking through my eyes in a way and thought process of not settling. Not just with women but with all aspects in my life. I've come to realize that over the past years of my career I really don't care for what I'm doing. It's ok, it pays great, but it's comfortable and isn't what I truly want to be doing with my life. So I decided after next season I'm quitting and going after what I really want. At this point in my life I don't really care for the American scenery and I find europe so much more intriguing. When I quit my job next year, I'm moving to Europe for however long it seems fit. I'm trying to have an intersting life instead of a boring comfortable life by introducing new things. I want to take salsa dance classes, I'm going to try free lance writing, and I'm learning how to day trade. I want to travel as much as possible and expose myself to new things, new people, new cultures, and new experiences.
I want to live life.
The list goes on but that is where I am at. It all started with the simple idea of trying to learn how to talk to women that made realize that life isn't what it is made out to be. You don't have to settle down and get married with the first girl you spend a couple years with, you don't have to settle with the job you are in if you don't care for it. you don't have to live your life in an unintersting and unexciting way. Once you realize that, truly realize that and take action. That is when you begin to escape the matrix. You have to take action though. So until next time cosmonauts, stay tuned :)
So A little while ago I wrote a post on the daygame forum about taking the "red pill"
and I thought I could share it on here as well. maybe even enlighten some people to a more open minded way of thinking.
If anyone is unsure of what I am talking about the reference basically comes from the movie the matrix.
Even though this is a movie the concept is very real. we might not take any "pills" but we are in a world that is controlled. There are plenty of people out there who have already covered this topic and it can vary from relationships to jobs and your everyday life but the overlying theme is that we live a life that is already laid out for us in steps on how we should live our lives instead of how we actually really want to.
Have you ever put a decent amount of thought into why you live your life the way you do, or why you HAVE to live a certain way. What if you were to go against what is "socially normal". The thoughts can go deeper and deeper but taking action is what really matters. I have actually began my own journey but I will save that for the next post.
here is the post I wrote up on the forum. Although it is mainly centered around daygame/seduction you can still relate to it in an every day life.
This is going to be extremely TL;DR to forewarn you but could be worth
it. I know this might all seem like a lot of nonsense talk but those who
are far enough to recognize what I am talking about will see it and
maybe some that aren't. If nothing else watch the clips at the end of
the post, Enjoy
I
look back on it now and I think it was about 6 months ago. 6 months ago
I took the red pill and my life has changed, there's no going back now.
for anyone wondering what "the red pill" is. in a fictional
base if you seen or watch the movie The Matrix the red pill is offered
to Neo a character in the movie so he can leave the matrix.
In real life the "matrix" is the system. it's the way society has programed us to live without us even knowing.
First
off I want to say I am one of those people who don't really look much
into "conspiracies" or "thats what they want you to believe" type of
things. so if you do read this and think that than you either are to far
stuck into the system or have yet to be induced by the red pill.
let
it begin... can you truly and honestly say you don't care what others
think? truly true to yourself, can you say and know that you don't care
what others think?
we all get into this mainly because we want
to get good with women. there might be a little bit different motives
here or there but the underlying theme is we want to have the type of
women we want in our life. so we learn.
After learning some
theory and applying it you can quickly come to find that seduction/game
is a learnable skill. a skill that can be mastered if you so choose but
not necessary.
How do we get the women we want after we find the
seduction community. we learn, we learn what we need to to and how to
do it to be able to land the girls we want. first it might start with
theory, then techniques and inner game. The more you get serious about
game/seduction the more it molds your life into an attractive lifestyle
and you begin to mold yourself to be a better you, the best you...
It is within that deeper journey into game/seduction that you have the choice of taking the red pill.
so
basics are first. we learn how to approach, talk to girls and people in
an attractive way that makes it enjoyable. we have to learn the
specific details and techniques that it takes to land the girl.
eventually with enough practice and dedication we land the girl. but the
journey doesn't stop there if you aren't blind to see the path.
We
keep learning. it's fun. we're having fun and enjoying the results and
the experiences. we like it and it is positive and constructive. it
helps make us a better person. A better you... A better you.
We
then learn that not only should we learn the specific techniques but we
should also have the "inner game", the mindset, and the thoughts of
doing not living up to expectations. letting go of the results and
enjoying the game for what it is and not worry about what people think.
which could be the biggest and most crucial step in a lot of aspects of
life and just so happens.
That's where you take the red pill if you so choose.
Don't
worry what people think. a simple enough thought, but the thought will
burrow into your mind and change your life forever if you let it. as the
red pill does.
To explain what I mean unfortunately it will be a long process and we have to start from the beginning.
We
are born, nothing to out of the ordinary there I suppose. Then between
the ages of 1-5 you are raised by your family. maybe your family had
specific customs like a strict religion or other specific customs which
is even worse cause it basically indulges you with the blue pill from a
very young age.
next is our primary school year. we are
introduced into the world. we are taught basic thing we need to know in
the world. reading, writing, spelling, and math as well as other things
which is all good. looking back at it primary school isn't one of the
bigger places that society feeds you the blue pill but it basically is
conditioning you for it. that being said primary school is still a good
thing to learn the basics of what you need to learn.
next,
depending on where you live and how they go about it is middle school
(ages 12-14). This is where it really conditions you and is the very
early stages of your blue pill exposure.
you now are learning
more things. which is good in itself. but they are more specific. you
are learning advance math skills. learning sports. learning about
specific topics like economics and advance sciences. They may even start
to segregate you into different "groups". Advance math classes, jv and
varsity sports teams, after school programs.
Next is the highschool years (ages 14-18) and in mind is where they force you to swallow the blue pill.
Now
you start to learn about a whole lot of different things. not only
school related but in your life as well. your old enough that you start
to act out what you see and react to specific situations. this is where
you are wiped out and erased from your true self. They teach you how you
are going to have to behave and act once you are out of high school.
that you will need a career and they teach you subjects you need to
learn so that you can obtain that career. They preach to you that you
need a career so that you can make enough money to live happily. they
really seperate you into different groups. the ones that are really
smart are now in top classes, and the lesser are in worst classes just
to pass. you are exposed to how people and groups behave.
They
teach you how to be part of society, and right there that is where you
swallow it. You learn how to be part of society.... Not how you want to
be part of it. you only think it is how you choose because they have
been conditioning you almost your whole life up to that point.. no, they
teach you how to be a part of society how they want you to be a part of
society
now you either go into college, maybe go straight into
your career or job, or maybe a different direction in life none the less
you are now part of.... society....
society... the matrix... the system... it's all the same.
up
to that point in your life you are filled with information society
wanted you to know. the schools taught you things that you would need to
contribute to society. what you watched on television you began to act.
the fancy cars, clothes, and flashy things all the celebrities had you
now wanted. everywhere you looked you were informed that materials were a
necessity. you need money to get the materials you need. you need a
high paying job to get the money you need. you get girls if you have
money. etc.
all those things are what society wants you to
believe. why? because the people at the very top benefit from it. just
think all the fancy things you don't need you're spending all that money
for happiness based on materials. materials that will lose there
attraction. oh but you need money so you work and a high paying job.
those high paying jobs are usually pretty beneficial to society. they
make you work for some boss for long hours, years doing the things they
want you to do because they want it all the while you paying taxes to
the government and them benefiting from it.. they want you to buy the
house because that is what people in society does. well guess what now
you are paying mortgage, with interest. interest that the bank is
collecting from your house loans, car loans, school loans. anything they
can get from you or benefit from you.
next and more relevant to
us is dating. through out our life in society we learn that we will have
girlfriends yes, but eventually we are to get married. why? first off
marriage was brought on only by the church and society in the first
place. in the relevance of history, marriage is a pretty new concept if
you consider how long the human species has been around. and if you look
pre human history into ancestors like apes and monkeys there is no
marriage just groups. in fact besides a couple species of birds humans
are the only animals that mate for life.
now why would society
want you to get married. simple so that you can settle down get into the
routine that society wants you to be in and keep contributing. also
they want you to produce children so that they can also one day
contribute to society the same way you did.
Basically, if you
look at a "normal" persons life. there overall routine, the things that
make up there life is generated to help benefit other people. help
benefit society.... the system.
I could keep going on specific
details and examples (if interested you can PM me) but I think you get
the point. a bit ago I wrote that I had to explain all those details so
that I could explain how deep the though of what "don't worry what
people think" and how that is when you take the red pill if you so
choose to commit to.
If you look back at all those instances or
any instance, situation or decision in your life or another persons life
and were able to implement not worrying about what people thought.
truly truly implement it true to your self that you didn't worry about
what other people thought just think about how it would change things.
materials
don't matter now. the only reason they mattered before was because they
were so glamorized by everything around you as "must have" things. you
needed them because everyone else wanted them or had them. now you don't
care what people think so you don't care if they think differently
about you because you don't have the materials. you don't care.
a
house, a car, or anything else needing a loan. yes I do agree they are
convenient. but not must haves. what if you didn't care what people
thought if you didn't own anything that involved you getting a loan to
get it. if you don't care about owning it now that means you won't be
getting the loan. that means you won't be paying the bank all that
interest.
what about your career. do you need all that money that
society told you that you needed so you can get the things or do the
things that they made you think you needed. no. you don't care anymore.
you do need money to survive I agree but why not just survive and to do
the things you truly want to do. not what society has programmed into
you but what you truly deep down want now that you don't care I bet
you're want list is a whole lot cheaper. well that's not good for those
big companies that have to jobs that pay well that involve you working
so hard for someone else.
this can keep going and going. just
think. think of a world where no one cared what other people thought.
that means they wouldn't be doing what society wants them to and this
world would be completely different.
The simple act that we are
taught in daygame. "don't care what others think" is a rabbit hole, it
is THE RED PILL. and this hole is so deep you couldn't even imagine
(because society doesn't want you to) but if you choose to you can go as
deep as you want. the best part about it is if you do take the journey
into "the rabbit hole" - "the red pill" then you begin to benefit from
it. not everyone else, not society, not the government or who ever wants
to control your life but YOU!
now you begin to live life up to
your own expectations, how you want to live it, why you want to live it
that why and do what you want.
and why.... because you don't care what other people think
ok since the last time I wrote a post I have had a bit happened but I was just so busy I couldn't write up a post about it all
the first thing that comes to my mind is daygame. over the last few weeks I have been pretty much going out 4 days a week and even though I'm only going out for 2 hours at a time after work I can see the difference from the momentum of going out day after day, compared to just a couple days a week.
it seemed like just about everyday I had at least 1 interaction the went really well that ended in a number. I think I got about 4 numbers and a facebook in the last couple weeks. 1 of those girls I have already went on a date with. another girl we were planning a date but she said she was going to be busy for the next few weeks. I looked her up on facebook and found out she has a boyfriend but she still seems interested in meeting up so we'll see if it happens and the rest of the girls i'm still int he process of communication with them.
besides this week trading has been going pretty well. it seems like week after week I find improvements and I get more results so things are progressing good. this week at work is pretty slow because our generator took a crap on us so I havn't had any time to myself at work to practice trading.
the other thing that was really nice was that the girl from LA ended up flying back up here to see me. just for the weeknd this time. luckily it was right when our generator at work failed so we got a day off and I was actually able to spend the weeknd with her. We didn't have anything wild planned. just went to some good restraunts and had some romantic times as well as lots of sex. I think we fucked 3 times each day. yeah shes got a crazy sex drive. fun though. thanks to her as well this time helped me set another milestone with her being the first girl that I ever cummed on their face hahaha. she loved it though.
Also the big talk I was waiting for came up this time around and I was actually expecting it. basically it came down to the fact that she wants to get more serious with me and if not than she wants to move on which is understandable and I'm totally fine with the thought of it.
It got me thinking though and I have told myself before that if there was ever a girl that I was really interested in than I wouldn't mind getting into a relationship with her and I've told myself that I wouldn't mind dating the LA chick either if we were around each other more. So we're going to talk about it more but I think I might try the relationship with her this winter. I still want to travel and she loves traveling as well so im sure she would want to come to some places I travel to but I might not travel as much as I planned this winter and spend more time with her. if worst comes to worstand it doesnt work out than I just go back out daygaming and traveling so no big deal.
This week is probably going to be going pretty slow but that's the news as of late. so until next time cosmonauts, stay tuned :)
